A Christian Counselor's reflections on faith, life, love and God in the day to day...
Friday, February 19, 2010
Lent and Leviticus: Identifying with Christ
Leviticus 1:4
He is to lay his hand on the head of the burnt offering, and it will be accepted on his behalf to make atonement for him.
I’m on a journey of reading through the bible. Genesis is full of incredible stories, Exodus is the start of an amazing journey…and then you get to Leviticus. If you’ve read through the bible you know how hard it is to keep your commitment once you enter into the book of Leviticus.
It’s a book of do’s and don’ts. Sacrificial regulations, camp rules, and policies pertaining to a new way of life. It’s easy to get lost in the history and skim through the details. But every now and then when I take the time to really dig deep, I am always amazed. Even with these seemingly meaningless rituals, God instills divine purpose.
I found one of those profound truths as I was reading the regulations for the burnt offering. The purpose of the burnt offering was to make atonement for sin and be granted God’s acceptance. There was a very specific way in which it was to be done. One thing that really hit home to me was the requirement of the giver to lay hands on the head of the animal before the sacrifice took place.
At first glance, I thought that was a strange rule, but it didn’t really mean much to me until I realized the profound reality of what was taking place. In the laying on of the hands, the giver was identifying with the one being given. He was bringing himself to the level of the sacrifice, looking it in the eyes, and appreciating the gift of life that was about to be given for the sake of his atonement.
And then I realized that sadly, we have come a long way from that. Don’t get me wrong, I am so thankful that we no longer have to make atonement for our sins in such a laborious way, but in the simplicity of the grace we have been given, something has been lost. In the ultimate and complete sacrifice of Christ, we are no longer daily charged to identify with the one who gave His perfect life for us. In the removing our hands from that precious head, we have lost our appreciation for the life that was given for us.
I am so grateful for the gift of Christ, but I am also ashamed that I hardly take the time to identify with the life that was so freely given for me. I don’t believe that this post coincidentally comes the week of Ash Wednesday. For many believers, the next 40 days usher us into a sacred season. A season of gratitude, a season of identification with the one who gave His all for us. For many people, it is a time of giving up something in an attempt to identify with the one who gave His entirety on our behalf.
This season of Lent, may we symbolically lay our hands on the head of the one who sacrificed and suffered so much on our behalf. May we take the time to draw near to His side, look into His eyes, and shed tears of love and appreciation for the sacrifice He so willingly gave.
How are you identifying with your Sacrifice this season?
Monday, February 15, 2010
The Gift of Impossibility: Lessons Learned from my Grandma
Proverbs 3:5
“Trust in the Lord with all your heart and do not lean on your own understanding”
“The condition for a miracle is difficulty, however, the condition for a great miracle is impossibility.”—Angus Buchan
Trust. To be honest, that’s a word I haven’t had much experience with. Let me explain. It’s not that I don’t have people in my life that I can trust. That’s not the case. It’s just that I live in such a way that there is little need for trust. I am self-reliant. I am independent. Many times, I am all that I need. I avoid the impossible and focus on the probable. Trust is not part of the equation because frankly, I don’t allow it to be. It’s safer this way.
But to be honest, I am realizing something new. I am learning that in order for there to be great reward, there must be great risk. I have felt that challenge placed on my heart lately in everything I have read, in my time with God, and in my interactions with others. One specific interaction that has challenged me in this area is my relationship with my grandmother.
I’ve been interviewing my grandmother, trying to capture the story of her life while I still have time. By looking at her sweet, soft, wrinkled face, you would never believe how adventurous her journey has been. She has lived a life filled with risks, never relying on what she knew logically, but always trusting God completely.
One story she told me brought her back to her early months of marriage. Her father had died at a young age, and she was married young as a result of this. But even at the age of 15, she was a woman who understood the meaning of trust- I guess she had to in order to survive.
One day her husband (my grandpa) came home from a week of traveling as an Evangelist in the countryside of Egypt, with not a penny in his pocket and not an ounce of food in the house. Though the week had been fruitful spiritually, it had not been fruitful financially. He came home that evening with no money and no courage to explain.
“Necima”, he said, “Let’s fast and pray this evening.” He could not get himself to tell her that they had absolutely no money for food, and he did the only thing he knew how to do- cry out to God.
Without one question, without one complaint, without one doubt- she did what she did best- she trusted. She trusted her husband, but primarily, she trusted God. They fasted and prayed together that entire evening and through part of the night. They trusted God because they had to. They trusted God because there was no other option. They trusted God because their very lives depended on it.
An early knock on the door brought the mail delivery man with a single envelope. When my grandpa opened the envelope, there lay a pile of cash- with no name, or note to trace it back to the giver. God had proven Himself faithful. He could be trusted.
My grandpa ran to tell my grandma the news and the reality of their financial situation before the envelope arrived. God had defied logic and he had defied their “own understanding”. With great risk came great reward.
That’s the beauty of our God. He challenges us to trust him. He challenges us to put our faith in Him when it makes absolutely no sense. He challenges us to rejoice in the soil of impossibility, for it becomes fertile ground for the miraculous to take place. Fertile ground for trust to sprout. Fertile ground to draw closer to our God in ways we never imaged.
Lord, may you challenge us to walk boldly on the road of impossibility. May you increase our trust in You and decrease our trust in ourselves every single step of the way.
“Trust in the Lord with all your heart and do not lean on your own understanding”
“The condition for a miracle is difficulty, however, the condition for a great miracle is impossibility.”—Angus Buchan
Trust. To be honest, that’s a word I haven’t had much experience with. Let me explain. It’s not that I don’t have people in my life that I can trust. That’s not the case. It’s just that I live in such a way that there is little need for trust. I am self-reliant. I am independent. Many times, I am all that I need. I avoid the impossible and focus on the probable. Trust is not part of the equation because frankly, I don’t allow it to be. It’s safer this way.
But to be honest, I am realizing something new. I am learning that in order for there to be great reward, there must be great risk. I have felt that challenge placed on my heart lately in everything I have read, in my time with God, and in my interactions with others. One specific interaction that has challenged me in this area is my relationship with my grandmother.
I’ve been interviewing my grandmother, trying to capture the story of her life while I still have time. By looking at her sweet, soft, wrinkled face, you would never believe how adventurous her journey has been. She has lived a life filled with risks, never relying on what she knew logically, but always trusting God completely.
One story she told me brought her back to her early months of marriage. Her father had died at a young age, and she was married young as a result of this. But even at the age of 15, she was a woman who understood the meaning of trust- I guess she had to in order to survive.
One day her husband (my grandpa) came home from a week of traveling as an Evangelist in the countryside of Egypt, with not a penny in his pocket and not an ounce of food in the house. Though the week had been fruitful spiritually, it had not been fruitful financially. He came home that evening with no money and no courage to explain.
“Necima”, he said, “Let’s fast and pray this evening.” He could not get himself to tell her that they had absolutely no money for food, and he did the only thing he knew how to do- cry out to God.
Without one question, without one complaint, without one doubt- she did what she did best- she trusted. She trusted her husband, but primarily, she trusted God. They fasted and prayed together that entire evening and through part of the night. They trusted God because they had to. They trusted God because there was no other option. They trusted God because their very lives depended on it.
An early knock on the door brought the mail delivery man with a single envelope. When my grandpa opened the envelope, there lay a pile of cash- with no name, or note to trace it back to the giver. God had proven Himself faithful. He could be trusted.
My grandpa ran to tell my grandma the news and the reality of their financial situation before the envelope arrived. God had defied logic and he had defied their “own understanding”. With great risk came great reward.
That’s the beauty of our God. He challenges us to trust him. He challenges us to put our faith in Him when it makes absolutely no sense. He challenges us to rejoice in the soil of impossibility, for it becomes fertile ground for the miraculous to take place. Fertile ground for trust to sprout. Fertile ground to draw closer to our God in ways we never imaged.
Lord, may you challenge us to walk boldly on the road of impossibility. May you increase our trust in You and decrease our trust in ourselves every single step of the way.
Saturday, February 13, 2010
Not Just a Story About a Man and a Whale...
Jonah 4:2b
"I knew that you are a gracious and compassionate God, slow to anger and abounding in love, a God who relents from sending calamity."
I would venture to say that Jonah is one of the most disliked bible characters of all time. The irony is that the reason so many of us dislike Jonah- is because he reminds us too much of ourselves. He is a reflection of the deepest and darkest parts of who we are. It’s easier to project our sinful state onto Jonah rather than to allow God’s spirit to bring conviction and transformation into our own lives.
But with all the negative publicity this story receives, buried deep within the lines of this narrative comes a profound part of Jonah’s faith that is quickly skimmed over and disregarded: His confidence in God. His steadfast belief in the grace and compassion of a loving Savior. In fact, when it comes to matters of faith- Jonah puts me to shame.
His faith in the power of God’s love and grace was not just a matter of wishful thinking and hoping- it was more than that. To him, it was factual. There was no questioning it. To him, God’s grace was as certain as the rising and setting of the sun- it would not fail. He knew that no matter what the Ninevites had done- God’s mercy was greater than their sins. It wasn’t a matter of if God would forgive but a matter of when they would receive it. He knew that despite how far they had run from God- His love would surely prevail. He knew that the moment the Ninevites heard God’s word spoken into their lives- they would instantly be changed. To put it simply, Jonah knew his God, and he knew Him well. He knew His God, and the power that exuded from Him. He knew his God, in the fullness of His majesty. Gracious. Compassionate. Slow to anger. Abounding in love.
For all the things you and I may despise in the humanity of Jonah- this one thing is for sure- I yearn for that kind of confidence. I want to know my God in a way that sees the outcome of His grace and mercy as factual rather than probable. I want to have a faith that stands firm in His power and rests secure in His compassion. I want to have a knowledge of His love that’s as sure as the sun’s rising and as certain as the coming of the dawn. I want to have a confidence that knows without a shadow of a doubt that my God’s love can conquer all. No matter who, no matter how, no matter what.
Truth be told, our lives would be drastically different if we knew our God that way, wouldn’t they? If only we carried that confidence into our own “Nineveh”, how many lives would be changed? How many people would be instantly transformed by God’s power? How many broken souls mended by His healing grace? How many shame filled lives crowned with glory and forgiven by His compassion and mercy? How many addictive chains broken by His abounding and relentless love? If only we really believed in that kind of power in our lives.
Lord, I’m challenged by the confidence of Jonah, a confidence of a man that knew his God. Usher me into your presence today, reminding me of your relentless love and mercy. Overwhelm me with but a glimpse of your unfailing power, so that I too can bring your healing grace into the places to which you have called me. Give me a faith that stands firm in your ability to change lives. Help me to believe it, and then help me to live it today.
"I knew that you are a gracious and compassionate God, slow to anger and abounding in love, a God who relents from sending calamity."
I would venture to say that Jonah is one of the most disliked bible characters of all time. The irony is that the reason so many of us dislike Jonah- is because he reminds us too much of ourselves. He is a reflection of the deepest and darkest parts of who we are. It’s easier to project our sinful state onto Jonah rather than to allow God’s spirit to bring conviction and transformation into our own lives.
But with all the negative publicity this story receives, buried deep within the lines of this narrative comes a profound part of Jonah’s faith that is quickly skimmed over and disregarded: His confidence in God. His steadfast belief in the grace and compassion of a loving Savior. In fact, when it comes to matters of faith- Jonah puts me to shame.
His faith in the power of God’s love and grace was not just a matter of wishful thinking and hoping- it was more than that. To him, it was factual. There was no questioning it. To him, God’s grace was as certain as the rising and setting of the sun- it would not fail. He knew that no matter what the Ninevites had done- God’s mercy was greater than their sins. It wasn’t a matter of if God would forgive but a matter of when they would receive it. He knew that despite how far they had run from God- His love would surely prevail. He knew that the moment the Ninevites heard God’s word spoken into their lives- they would instantly be changed. To put it simply, Jonah knew his God, and he knew Him well. He knew His God, and the power that exuded from Him. He knew his God, in the fullness of His majesty. Gracious. Compassionate. Slow to anger. Abounding in love.
For all the things you and I may despise in the humanity of Jonah- this one thing is for sure- I yearn for that kind of confidence. I want to know my God in a way that sees the outcome of His grace and mercy as factual rather than probable. I want to have a faith that stands firm in His power and rests secure in His compassion. I want to have a knowledge of His love that’s as sure as the sun’s rising and as certain as the coming of the dawn. I want to have a confidence that knows without a shadow of a doubt that my God’s love can conquer all. No matter who, no matter how, no matter what.
Truth be told, our lives would be drastically different if we knew our God that way, wouldn’t they? If only we carried that confidence into our own “Nineveh”, how many lives would be changed? How many people would be instantly transformed by God’s power? How many broken souls mended by His healing grace? How many shame filled lives crowned with glory and forgiven by His compassion and mercy? How many addictive chains broken by His abounding and relentless love? If only we really believed in that kind of power in our lives.
Lord, I’m challenged by the confidence of Jonah, a confidence of a man that knew his God. Usher me into your presence today, reminding me of your relentless love and mercy. Overwhelm me with but a glimpse of your unfailing power, so that I too can bring your healing grace into the places to which you have called me. Give me a faith that stands firm in your ability to change lives. Help me to believe it, and then help me to live it today.
Friday, February 5, 2010
All the Single Ladies: A Comparison of Bird Mating and Human Mating
[This post is from early in my blogging days, but I thought it was worth a second look:]
"And the Lord God said, 'It is not good that man should be alone; I will make him a helper comparable to him" (Genesis 2:18)
A few days ago, my husband and I were watching the television show called Planet Earth. You may be familiar with it. Videographers enter into some of the most intricate and untread parts of our planet and capture it on film. This particular episode was about animals of the jungles. How does this pertain to single ladies? Well, I’m getting there…
One thing is for sure: you cannot help but witness the extravagant displays on this earth without standing in awe of the Creator himself. God was so deliberate as he intimately wove the fabrics of this earth together, from animals to plants to human beings. I believe that we can learn so much about life by getting a glimpse into His creation.
You see, as I was watching the dynamics of jungle birds mating in this particular episode, and as I listened to the commentator discuss the procedure- I couldn’t help but parallel these truths with our own human relationships. In looking at birds, I wonder if we’ve somehow gotten it all backwards. Let me give you a few of my observations:
The first thing I noticed was that it was the male birds who were extravagant and ornate. Bright and beautiful colors and patterns, lavish feathers of all shapes and sizes, loud and boisterous chirps and calls. But the females, well, they were “modest” as the commentator pointed out. Plain in their appearance. Dull colors, quiet chirps. They were out simply to be won, with no need to dress or impress. They had an innate knowledge that they were valuable, and that they deserved great things. And so they sat, quietly, waiting confidently for the pursuit.
The second thing I noticed was that the females were very picky. Even with the bright colors and bold noises of the males, it would take nothing short of an outstanding performance for them to even have a shot with the highly valued females. They would settle for nothing less than the best. Nothing less than magnificence.
The third thing I observed was that there was no desperation on the part of the female birds. No need to make sure they got to the right place, were wearing the right feathers, or had the right body style. They sat patiently, just where they were at. They knew that in the end the males would find them because they were made to find them. And in the end, it always worked out that way.
I look at these standard in light of my past experiences. I look at them in light of the experiences of countless women I meet every day in my counseling office. I look at them in light of story after story of broken hearts and a desperate desire to be loved, to be valued. It seems as though our culture has really set us up for despair.
We live in a society that is completely opposed to this model of pursuit. Call me old fashioned, but I am convinced that we’ve adapted a currency of value that has nothing to do with true love, and everything to do with sex appeal, fashion, and beauty. A culture that has fooled women into believing that they must earn the right to be loved. A culture in which women have become the pursuers rather than the pursued- dancing around, ruffling our feathers, showing off our colors in the desperation of finding someone to love u- all the while trying to convince ourselves that we are worth being loved. A culture of women no longer believing they have the right to be picky, but rather to, “take what you can get”. A culture that has forgotten that they are worth remarkable, and that they are worth magnificent.
As I reflect on these things I’m left with prayer:
Women, may you be challenged to acknowledge and accept your true value in the eyes of your Creator. May you be strengthened to settle for nothing less than seeing that level of worth in the eyes of the one who pursues you.
Men, may you be challenged to become more and more magnificent and remarkable as you draw closer to the One who created you, relying on his sanctification at work in your life to produce in you this level of splendor.
And may you then come together in the beautiful unity of relationships. A beauty that reflects the majesty and the brilliance of our Creator.
All the single ladies…be encouraged.
Saturday, January 30, 2010
Glow-in-the-Dark Christianity:
When Moses came down from Mount Sinai with the two tablets of the Testimony in His hands, he was not aware that his face was radiant, because he had spoken with the Lord.
I’ve always tried to imagine what this verse meant exactly when speaking of Moses radiance. I picture his face bright and golden, light exuding from underneath his skin, like something glow-in-the-dark. I wonder how bright it was, and how it felt. But no matter the details, one thing is for sure- everyone noticed.
According to Exodus 34, when Aaron and the rest of the people noticed, they were a bit freaked out. They weren’t sure what to expect because something about him was drastically different.
There had been a noticeable change.
I don’t know about you but there is something overtly challenging about this passage. The reality is, when we meet face to face with God- there should be a drastic change. There should be a noticeable difference. There should be something that happens to us that causes others to observe a change. There should be a radiance about us, emanating the essence of who our God is. When we leave His presence, some part of that presence must go with us.
For Moses, it was a brightness, a physical light for all to see. A brightness having nothing to do with the words he spoke, and everything to do with the light he displayed. For us, that light can come in so many forms. Selflessness. Patience. Love. Peace. Joy. Kindness. Gentleness. God’s spirit is unique. God’s spirit causes a change in us. It causes us to radiate with His presence, not because of who we are or what we say, but because of who He is in our lives.
The beauty of this passage is that Moses had no idea that anything had changed. He had no idea that others saw the mark of a Holy God on his life. The only way that he was able to realize was due to the reactions of those around him. They knew he had been with God without him saying a word.
Christians, may you be empowered to live a life that radiates that presence of your God. May you be challenged to leave His presence changed, allowing it to infiltrate every part of your being. May you be inspired to embrace a life that penetrates the darkness of sin with the light of Christ. May you be fueled to live in such a way that causes the people around you to seek the face of God. May you be ignited to display His radiant love through your life today and every day.
Tuesday, January 26, 2010
Toxic Relationships:
Some thoughts I wrote for Relevant Magazine about toxic relationships and how to break free of them.
Feel free to pass it along.
Toxic Relationships:
Friday, January 22, 2010
From Signs to Spirit:
Exodus 13:21
By day the LORD went ahead of them in a pillar of cloud to guide them on their way and by night in a pillar of fire to give them light, so that they could travel by day or night.
Isaiah 30:21
Whether you turn to the right or to the left, your ears will hear a voice behind you, saying, "This is the way; walk in it.
We are facing some life-changing decisions. It seems as though the moment we have crossed one fork in the road we are faced with yet another. The question of direction can be a very daunting thing.
For us, decisions in the past have always been pretty clear. Life seemed to narrow down choices on its own. When the time came for decisions to be made, there was usually only one choice to make- and we walked in it. It was like the Israelites, walking behind the pillar of cloud by day and the pillar of fire by night. There was one choice, and more than anything, choosing to walk on that path was simply a matter of obedience.
But you see, God is taking us on a whole new journey from the level of obedience and into the realm of faith. Where before there were signs to guide us along the way, now there are none. Where before we learned to rely on the tangible, now we are left to rely on His Spirit. For me, that takes the exercise of a whole new spiritual muscle. A whole new level of intercession. A whole new level of sensitivity and intimacy that comes with hearing God’s voice.
I’ve learned that many times, God will give us signs. Signs to ease our hearts, signs to guide us to the next step, signs to remind us that He can be trusted. But I’ve also learned that many times, God will refrain from giving us signs. He will refrain in order to take us into greater passion with Him. He will refrain in order to teach us how to become dependent on Him alone. He will refrain….to show us that He can be trusted.
Now is the time to walk in what we know. Now is the time to remember the provision of the past and be confident in that provision for the future. Now is the time to take the signs we have lived by and exchange them for His spirit. Exchange them for more of Him.
So take heart, and know that whether you walk to the right, or to the left, you will hear a voice from behind saying this is the way, walk in it. It’s His promise. Listen for Him.
Lord, take us into new levels of faith. Where there were once signs may you guide us now with your Spirit.
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